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Oct 1

You’ve got a friend … maybe

Posted on Friday, October 1, 2010 in Happiness, Kat, Relationships

Anyone who’s followed this silly blog for any length of time (whom I didn’t have to beg and bargain with to do so, that is) knows that I have been AWOL recently.

It’s not like me, because I am never at a loss for words … except, apparently, for now.

A friend I’ve come to know recently has died, the wonderful Jim Everson, aka Depot Dad, a single dad of two adorable children who lived in Novato. And his death happened when I was in the midst of a journey (literally and figuratively) in which I was deeply questioning this whole social networking thing, which I alternately love and hate.

I had been meditating and exploring the self-absorbed artifice of it all — blogs, Facebook, Twitter, yada, yada, yada — and yet I most likely would never have met Jim if it weren’t for our blogs.

And that has made me pause. Well, actually, it stumped me.

Could it be that the Internet actually can connect people in a genuine way?

As much as I often spinned it to appear that way, I actually felt deep in my heart that, nah, not really.

But I may have been wrong.

A few months ago, I was approached by someone researching real world vs. Internet friendships. Could you actually be friends if you’ve never met, the person wondered.

And I blabbed on about some of the great people I’m come to know because of my blog and/or theirs.

Are we real friends, I was asked.

Well, we’re friendly …

And then I met Jim, and watched the amazing community that gathered around him to support him through his long struggle with cancer. People who wrote and called to tell him they were thinking of him; people who sent cards and gifts and books to cheer him up; people who, like me, brought food and drinks and cleaned his dishes and made him laugh.

And, if that isn’t a definition of friendship, I don’t know what is.

True, Jim and I were just flirting around with the dance known as “getting to know each other.” We had no where near the depth of connection I have with the people I’ve known for a long time, and that he had with his long-time friends. But I saw a lot there that I knew I wanted to know more about; I think he did, too. Besides mourning for him and his children, I mourn the loss of what I saw as the “beginning of a beautiful friendship.”

As the “Social Network” movie is opening, it seems a good time to look at what we’re all doing here, on our blogs, on Twitter, on Facebook. There’s no doubt that the Internet has forvever changed the way we interact, the way we live.

But, the question remains … can the Internet actually create genuine friendships and connections; will it replace what we consider “friends,” or just be another way to connect?

My love/hate with the Internet continues, but I throw myself into it with a slightly new perception of it, unless what I experienced was a blip, a rarity, something that’s unlikely to be duplicated.

What do you think?

Jul 2

Shameless, blatant self-promotion

Posted on Friday, July 2, 2010 in Kat

I know, I know — I’m like the first person on the Internet to talk about herself.

I can live with that.

So, capitalizing on the fact that I have a few fans — you knew I was a flirt! — I’m
wondering if you’d like to share the love by voting for me for the 2010 Blogluxe Award.

In full self-disclosure, I will admit that I nominated myself (because you can!)
And, because of that, I chose the category as well — most provocative blog.

I don’t think that’s too far a stretch , is it? …

All you have to do is vote by pressing that pretty widget to the left, or go to the BlogLuxe website. You can vote through July 12, and you can vote daily if you have nothing else to do or you’re thinking this will somehow come with some
Kat perks just for you. Hey, you never know. It seems a little bit like cheating,
but I didn’t make up the rules.

And, honestly, I’m not sure what I’d win — if I win, that is — but I’m pretty sure there will be cocktails involved. So, if you vote for me, I promise I’ll raise a glass in your honor.

And, have a great and safe Fourth of July.

Apr 23

It’s a daddy blogger uprising!

Posted on Friday, April 23, 2010 in Men

Nothing’s sexier than a man who’s a dad.

And who’s smart and funny.

So, what would it be like to have hundreds — thousands — of them in a room together?

Like a harem I guess.

I’m not sure if there will be any sex — talk, that is — when the first Modern Media Man Summit (c’mon guys, it’s a daddy blogger conference) meets in Atlanta this September.

Still, it’s about time for dads to gather. (Why should we gals take the rap for gossiping? Although it could feel a little like when The Kid’s holed up in his room for hours — just what is he doing in there?)

That’s what Jason over at says, too. He’s cool with mommy blogger conferences:

In fact, it’s awesome. The blogosphere has become a place where women have the power and influence that they’re so often denied elsewhere, and everyone is better because of it. … But still we wonder: when will we have a real, bigtime blog conference for dads? When, Lawd, when? When’s gonna be OUR time?

As the organizers say:

Today’s Modern Media Man now is a domestic engineer. He cooks, cleans and often times stays home while the woman of the home goes off to the traditional office job. Men do an increased level of the family shopping, are taking an increasing role in rearing the children and are creating a new definition of what happens in a home.

No snide comments, gals.

I’m totally down with men being domestic engineers if I can be a domestic goddess.

Of course, the conference is reaching out to marketers — I sure hope it doesn’t become a mommy blogger-daddy blogger smackdown, with mommy bloggers feeling like men are encroaching on their territory.

There aren’t many details yet about what they’ll be talking about, but you know men …

  • Is it time for a daddy blogger uprising?
  • Are you going?

And, if you M3 types need some midlife divorced mommy blogger (I prefer goddess) advice, you know whom to call …