“This is disgusting!” Sara said as she shoved a People magazine in front of me.
“So then why do you keep reading that stupid magazine?”
“Not the magazine; I love People! I mean, the wedding.”
“You mean Kim Kardashian’s?”
“Look, it may be bordering on obscene how much they spent on it …”
“Over the top!”
“Oh, they’ll last longer than that. She has to have the baby bump first. Then they’ll divorce.”
” … but with everyone predicting marriage is dead, at least they don’t think so. They could have just lived together.”
“That’s not a marriage — it’s a photo op!”
I have no idea if Kim and new hubby Kris Humphries really love each other or not — and honestly, I don’t really care (although I would hope so if they’re going to have kids one day). They were smart to sign a prenup (and she makes a lot more than he does), although I’d imagine any breakup that involved a Kardashian would involve a lot of drama, prenup or not. And maybe Sara’s right; maybe it’s all for show (and media endorsements), like a reality TV show somehow got confused with reality. But everyone keeps talking about how marriage is dead and that no one needs it anymore, yet couples keep getting married — more than 2 million a year. The same it’s been for years.
We don’t have to marry anymore. People may still give look down upon divorce but it’s so common that it’s almost expected; so is cohabitation. But, just look at how gaga we get over something Prince William and Kate Middleton’s wedding, and Kim and Kris’.It’s like we still want to believe in the happily-ever-after part even though we know it rarely ends up that way.
So if half of those marriages end up in divorce (and many men complain about they hate paying spousal support), and who-knows-how-many are married but cheating, and choice moms are having babies with sperm donors (who needs a husband if you can just have a kid?), and more people are living together … you have to wonder why people still get married.
Can it be that we just love the idea of marriage more than the actual reality of it?
I wish Kim and Kris and anyone else who’s tying the knot the best. Hopefully, they’ve given a lot of thought into picking the right partner, especially if they hope to have kids one day. I’m quite done with marriage myself — one wedding was enough! — but I sure do like re-creating honeymoon nights …
- Is marriage irrelevant?
- Why did you get married?
- If you married again, would it be for the same reason or something else?
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