RSS Feed

You’re my fantasy man

Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 in Happiness, Men, Relationships, Sex/sexuality, Women

I was strolling the supermarket doing my usual food shopping this weekend when I came to my favorite aisle: the candy aisle. The eye candy aisle.

Honestly, it is purely coincidental that I’m often buying groceries at the same time that the local firemen are shopping, too. But I not only stock up on all the food I need; I also get a few fantasies. Can your supermarket do that?

“Why do women love firemen?” I asked Sara as we hung at the dog park later, watching our dogs chase each other around.

“Let me guess — you’ve been to the grocery store again. Honestly, Kat!”

“Well, I needed stuff!” I sniffed.  

Oh-kay. I think it’s the whole fantasy thing, you know — being rescued and everything.”

I have plenty of fantasies, but not about being rescued. Still, if I needed to be, pretty much any one of them would absolutely do. Our local firemen are hot.

Women love to fantasize about macho men —  firemen, construction workers, pirates (the Johnny Depp type, obviously) cops, cowboys. Men who are so manly, they’ll make us feel like real women.

And guys? Uh, well, just take your cues from Jesse James and Tiger Woods — porn stars, strippers, nurses, flight attendants, nannies and baby-sitters, cheerleaders, maids, their best friend’s hot wife, teachers, librarians and other “proper” types they want to defile (although I’m not too sure how many men fantasized about Camilla except Prince Charles), 19-year-olds … OK, pretty much any woman, but especially trashy chicks and subservient ones.

I’m guessing we gals want someone to take charge of us in our fantasies, and guys mostly want to be in charge (except for the dominatrix fantasies … or the ones in which two blond hotties at the bar insist that they take him home and have their way with him or something like that).

It’s not surprising that men have more fantasies that we gals do — why do they have all the fun? — and they tend to be more aggressive than ours, which still tend to have a lot of romance and passion in them.

But even though we can we can be having flying-off-the-chandelier kinky sex with a hot nurse or a fireman or anyone else in our head, evidently most of our fantasies are just plain ol’ vanilla sex with a past lover or our present one.

How boring is that?

  • How rich is your fantasy life?
  • Who do you fantasize about?
  • Who’s doing what to whom?
  • Have you acted on a fantasy?
  • If so, did that ruin it?

Bring on the comments

  1. jim
    Twitter: mobilene

    I got over my pornstar fantasies in my 30s. Now I dream of an educated woman with a bright smile and a satisfying career.
    .-= jim´s last blog ..Millenium Park in the fog =-.

  2. T
    Twitter: tsquest

    Interesting post…

    I think men do fantasize more than women. In fact, I think men fantasize about different women all the time whereas, in my experience, I tend to stick with whomever I’m dating at the time.

    Well, ok, and I fantasize about different women too. Heh.

    Yes, I’ve lived some of my fantasies. The part that doesn’t seem to work out is that the other people get their lines wrong!
    .-= T´s last blog ..I wonder if parenting small children is a leading cause of divorce… =-.

  3. dadshouse
    Twitter: dadshouseblog

    Men like trashy and subservient women? Umm… not all of us do. I like a woman who is sexy, and is uninhibited in bed. And I like to dominate. But subservient? Ummm… no thanks.

    Now then, I must go put out a fire.
    .-= dadshouse´s last blog ..School Band in a Disneyland Sound Studio =-.

  4. Kat Wilder says:

    How did that naked fireman get in my fantasy (not that I'm complaining…)

  5. Kat Wilder says:

    Jim — hey; now THAT’s sexy!

    T — Yes, the beauty of fantasies is that everyone does what we say and want. Real life? Not so much …

    Dads — don’t forget the uniform … 😉

  6. brian says:

    Women in a uniform
    Not sure why
    Not just the nurse or school girl in the pleated short skirt
    Maybe its the challenge of taking them out of the here and now to live for the moment
    There is a Lakspur Ferry Captain
    Tall, lean, runs marathons, never ending legs, girl next door look but sparkles
    Looks oh so good in those grey slacks
    Just enough to capture your attention
    Crisp white blouse with Captains bars on her shoulders

  7. Don says:

    I used to fantasize alot about any and every kind of trashy woman, librarian, teacher, cheerleader, etc. Now…after living in the single world for 10 years since my divorce…I want one that is truly head over heals in love with me. THAT is now what is hot to me!
    .-= Don´s last blog ..New friends and New DANGER… =-.

  8. VJ says:

    I was doing quite well with the fantasies until you mentioned Camilla actually. Well that killed everything. Me? I’ve got that well educated career woman at home who’s also wild about me. I really don’t fantasize much though. Cheers, ‘VJ’

  9. Honey
    Twitter: honeyandlance

    I have never found men in uniform (ANY KIND of uniform) even remotely attractive.