Comments on: Let’s get it on, but when?

By: Nicole

Nicole — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 19:21:21 +0000

If I just want to “get off” I make a date with my B.O.B …. and you know, Kat all the benefits THAT friend can give!

By: Kat Wilder

Kat Wilder — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 05:48:04 +0000

Nicole — foreplay is lovely, and if you want to go past the first date, essential. But, what if you just wanna get off?

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Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:35:04 +0000

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By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 21:50:20 +0000

First date sex? Well I would pretty much go along with Dadshouse’s point of view. My feeling is that if the door was opened on the first date most men would gladly cross the threshold.
I prefer all the stuff that usually precedes the sex; flirting, innuendos, naughty texting, phone sex, suggestive photos. I love the anticipation, the build up, new age courtship!
I feel all the “heavy petting”, so to speak, makes the sex all the better.
Besides, it gives you some time to see if there’s really a connection and if the foreplay is no fun …. why play at all?

By: Steve

Steve — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 15:18:32 +0000

Clip;

I have drop dead gorgeous female friends in California who are considered frumpy when they are carrying an extra 5 lbs or become ten minutes older than 28.

I’ve noticed that in high income areas the human tendency to reduce men to providers and to reduce women to sex objects accelerates a bit.

It sucks for everyone.

By: Kat Wilder

Kat Wilder — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 06:36:32 +0000

Dads — OK, so if the women “dictates” that the “sex will happen” on Date No. 1, is that OK?

Steve — Oh dear, as much as I want to agree that past a certain age women don’t ‘have the same head trips and concerns about sex,” I will have to disagree. They (well, many of them) do. Trust me. We just can’t get past the way things have changed since when we were in our 20s.

Eric — Yes, well, welcome to a woman’s world. It can be so confusing that, yes, we are repulsed if a man tries to be all playa on us, yet feel “insulted” if a guy doesn’t at least try; doesn’t he know how hot I am? I feel sorry for men sometimes …

Jim — I agree; fifth date and no desire to exchange bodily fluids and it can’t possibly be good. But, when you say “any woman who expressed interest in first date sex with me would be setting off a serious red flag,” does that mean she’d be sending off red flags if you both felt that way, or only if she was making the moves?

Clip — Hmm, methinks you have a huge chip on your shoulder. Any time someone speaks in absolutes — “always, “never,” etc. — that’s a big red flag for me. Maybe you’re just trying to hit up the wrong women. Could that be?

Jenni — I never think anyone should sleep with someone else if it’s not feeling OK. However, saying something like “if we sleep together on the first date, then he got what he wanted” makes me wonder — could it be that the woman also got what she wanted? Why are men the heavy here?

Mark — That was rather progressive of you; every boy I knew in high school at least tried. Can’t tell you how many times I heard, “You would if you loved me.” Ah yes, guilt always works …

By: Kat Wilder

Kat Wilder — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 06:34:46 +0000

Dads — OK, so if the women “dictates” that the “sex will happen” on Date No. 1, is that OK?

Mark — That was rather progressive of you; every boy I knew in high school at least tried. Can’t tell you how many time si heard, “You would if you loved me.” Ah yes, guilt always works …

By: Mark

Mark — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 05:46:54 +0000

I remember in college that I didn’t force the issue of sex onto my then girlfriend until I thought we were both ready. My male friends made fun of me for being way too prudish. I still feel the same way about sex. First date, second date, third date. Doesn’t matter. You both will know when or it won’t seem right. BTW, third date rule is so 1965!

By: Jenni

Jenni — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 02:49:59 +0000

I don’t do the first date sex. My thing is, if we sleep together on the first date, then he got what he wanted – and he may decide he really doesn’t need to call again [and that just makes a chic feel like a piece of crap in general]. And for me, sex is an emotional thing – if I’m sleeping with you, it’s because I see that maybe one day there could be a future.

Usually on the second or third date is when I’ll let it happen.
.-= Jenni´s last blog ..Letting the ‘Old Flame’ Die =-.

By: Clip

Clip — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 02:21:54 +0000

All women from Marin have one ‘MUST’ before
they’d ever have sex with a man. That is MUST HAVE LOTS OF MONEY, or a trust fund, family money, property, ect.