So, now it’s 2010 and I like New Year’s resolutions as much as I like New Year’s Eve.
Which means not very much.
But I’m all for self-improvement; I just don’t want to feel pressured about it or have it be somewhat artificial. I think it’s the kind of thing that needs to happen year-round, every year, lifelong.
Still, I went to the gym this weekend; it was packed, as you’d
expect, filled with people determined that “this will be the year I …” Like the two women on the treadmill next to me, vowing to workout three times a week to finally get fit.
Losing weight or getting in shape has got to be the
No. 1 New Year’s resolution.
Not a bad one, if you have to make them, but if I had to pick just one resolution, it would be this: have more and better sex. Which you’d most likely have if you loved your body, whatever shape it’s in.
Nothing gets you out of the mood more than hating your body. And, you know, skinny women can hate their body, too, so it’s not just about weight (and a study a few years ago said fat women had more sex than skinny women. So there!)
I never hear men go on and on about their weight, although there might be some who do. But I’ve rarely heard a woman not obsess about it, even my size 2 friends! Now, it even has a name: Negative Body Obsession (NBO). OK, well we gals have a lot of pressure from the media that guys don’t necessarily have (unless they’re trying to look like a cover of Men’s Health, which looks
pretty damn hot, BTW), plus women are judged more on their beauty — and, of course, T&A.
I wonder what men think about women who are unhappy with their body or weight and complain about it … but never do anything about it. Or they’re constantly dieting and then gaining it right back. I imagine most don’t want to bed a skeleton. And, although some, like Sean, are turned off by fat women (as I am by fat guys), there are plenty who are OK with — or actually prefer — BBW. I don’t think any of them want a women to start off as a, say size 6, and then balloon up to a 14, either.
You have to wonder how Marilyn Monroe, for a longtime the sexiest woman alive, would fare today. Would her voluptuousness be considered fat?
But I’m guessing more than anything, men want women to feel comfortable with their body so they can eat more than a salad (dressing on the side), get undressed in front of them, turn the lights on when having sex, and not worry so much about how fat they may or may not be so that they can actually enjoy sex!
Oh, yeah — and stop talking about it!
Because when women freak about their body, men suffer, too.
- So, guys, how do you feel when women go on and on about how unhappy they are with their body?
- And, how would you feel if your gal when from a size 4 or 6 to a 12 or 14, the average size for women nowadays?